I’ve always prided myself on my ability to see the positive.
You know those days when things keep going wrong? You spill your coffee on your clean shirt, leave your lunch in the fridge as you head out for the day, then get caught in traffic.
It can be easy to get stuck in the negativity. To focus on how much is going wrong. But I’ve always been able to instead find the positives.
And with the right mindset you too can get unstuck from the rain cloud you think is hovering over you.
You can notice the things that are going right.
The extra time you had to read on the bus while stuck in traffic. The replacement shirt you put on and how cute it looks. That you had enough milk in the fridge to make a new coffee or that you have enough money to buy your lunch.
You might not be able to control the very first thought you have, but you can choose to flip your thoughts and focus on the positive.
You can make the decision to be a glass half-full kind of person.
Last week I took part in a mini gratitude challenge over on Instagram and the final prompt was to share what I’d been grateful for over the last 7 days.
This prompt really highlighted my ability to focus on the positive, rather than getting stuck in the negative.
I shared a little insight into my week and how easily I could have gotten stuck in the negatives.
“This week has been a long week. I’ve been solo parenting for most of it while Luke was up on Fraser Island (hats off to single mums who do it full time – it’s exhausting).
Each night Rory has been waking every two hours, like clockwork.
But at the same it’s been full of lots of fun mummy and son moments, with lots of giggles and dribbles. There’s been good coffee, breakfast out and walks in the sun. There’s been lots of dark chocolate (maybe too much, if there’s such a thing) and reading ‘Like A Queen’ once bub is down.
And now that Luke is home, things are really great. I had a shower without an audience this morning, lots of cuddles from my two favourite guys and a sleep in until 8.30 (that counts, right?)
No matter how tired I may be, thankfully, there’s always something good to focus on.”
Being able to find the positive doesn’t mean never feeling negative emotions. We all go through hard times and it’s important to feel the whole range of emotions that these times bring. But I think it’s important to always be able to find something to be grateful for.
No matter what’s going on in your life you can always practice a little bit of gratitude.
Some days that might just be having a warm bed to fall into at the end of the day, other days you might have a huge list of things you’re grateful for.
It doesn’t matter how long or short your list is each day. It doesn’t matter if you’re thankful for the same few things every day. But taking time to think of at least one thing you’re thankful for each day will have a huge impact on your mindset.
Our mindset affects so much. How we feel, the energy we bring to the day and how we deal with every thing that life throws at us.
This month I’ve started writing a gratitude list, rather than just keeping it as thoughts in my head. And writing it down definitely amplifies my thankfulness. It also gives me something really cool to reflect back on.
If you find it hard to remember to practice gratitude or aren’t sure exactly what you can be grateful for, my lovely friend Chloe has created the perfect thing for you. And it’s completely free.
I’ve taken part in Chloe’s 28 Day Gratitude Project a couple of times and will be joining in again with this round. Head on over, find out more about the project and sign up too.
I’d also love to hear what you’re grateful for today. Let me know something positive about your day in the comments below.