You may have heard that I’ve been working on creating a super special eBook for you. An eBook titled Falling In Self-Love.
Not only will this eBook be packed full of practical and useful advice, it will be free for all of my beautiful subscribers.
This eBook, will be headed your way in February but I am so excited about its upcoming release that I wanted to share a sneak peek with you today.
Love. It’s more than just a feeling. Love involves showing up every single day. It means giving and receiving. Being open to receive. Putting in the time and doing the work. It requires being committed, and staying committed even when things are hard.
True love, deep love, means that things will come up for you. Your wounds will crack open. But wounds need to be opened so that you can grow and heal. True love means digging and diving deep. It requires presence and a willingness to give it your all.
This definition of love does not just apply to romantic love, between you and another person.
No, this kind of love is exactly how self-love works too.
Self-love and the relationship you have with yourself is the most important relationship you will ever have. It is your constant.
Self-love is more than just a feeling. It’s more than looking in the mirror and saying ‘I love you’ to yourself (even though that is a great habit and affirmation to use). It means that you show up everyday, for you. It means giving the relationship with yourself, your all and doing the work so that you can get to a place of complete self-acceptance.
Saying ‘I love you’ to your reflection is a great affirmation to practice, but for so many people this affirmation is followed by a louder voice that retaliates with a ‘that’s bullshit‘. If this sounds like you, if that whispered ‘I love you’ is then drowned out by a stronger, meaner voice, please know that this is normal. There is nothing wrong with you.
We all have days that we look in the mirror and just don’t feel the love. We all have days where we pick apart all of our flaws, whether they be real or imagined. We all go through periods where that feeling of ickiness, of despair, of waging war against ourself is our everyday existence.
BUT nobody actually wants to feel that way. Nobody wants to feel pain or hatred when they look in the mirror. No body wants to feel that way about their own body or about themselves.
We all want to love and accept ourselves, yet something stops this from happening. A voice pipes ups and tells us that we are not good enough.
I’m here to tell you that you no longer need to listen to that voice. It is not speaking a word of truth.
I think that sometimes we expect that one day we will wake up and be overcome with self-love. All of our issues will be resolved and we will never struggle with self-acceptance. Now as great as that would be, it’s pretty unlikely that that will happen.
Or we think that once we have lost the weight, found someone who loves us, made more money, bought that house or that car, have better clothes to wear, or whatever external thing you think you need – then, and only then, would we be able to love ourselves.
So many of us are searching for something outside of us to validate us and to make us feel worthy. But that feeling of being worthy and of being enough, can only come from within.
You don’t need to do or be anything in order to invite self-love into your life (which, remember, is more than just a feeling). You can have it now.
So if self-love isn’t just a feeling how do we make it part of our lives?
Simple, we show up. We do the work. We feel our feelings and learn to change them. In order to grow we need to turn inwards, and get in contact with those feelings that we have been trying to hide from, and we listen to what they have to say.
We need to feel our feelings – rather than trying to out-eat, out-drink, out-work, out-stress, out-anything them so that we don’t have to feel them.
Once we start to do this, we can work on changing our thoughts and beliefs around our value and worth. We can rewrite the stories in our heads, and start to realise that we are pretty darn special.
If you believe that you are not worthy or not enough, then that reality will be reflected right back to you. But imagine what kind of life you could lead if you believed that you were worthy, that you were enough, that you were truly magnificent.
I want you to know, to realise, and to believe that you are enough. And babe, you have always been enough.
If you commit to yourself, if you are ready to show up everyday and put in the work. If you incorporate self-care practices into your everyday life, then you can experience what self-love really means. You can start to accept yourself for who you are, in this very moment. Exactly as you are.
And who are you? You are someone unique, beautiful, fascinating, full of abundant joy and life.
Once you start to experience what self-love and self-acceptance feels and looks like in your life, then the possibilities start to seem endless. When you are no longer digging yourself down into a hole of despair and self-sabotage, when your low self-esteem no longer stops you from achieving your dreams before you even start them, well then you can do anything you want to.
I think learning to practice self-love, realising your worth and beginning to accept yourself are the keys to feeling vibrant and alive. They are the keys to feeling great and unleashing your inner spark into the world.
So in order to start experiencing and living a life that includes self-love, it’s time for you to do the work. And while I call it work, it doesn’t have to be hard or something to procrastinate on. It can be fun. Exciting and a part of your life that you will love.
Now is the time to start showing up for yourself.
To help make this transition easier for you, Falling will contain my favourite tips on how to start doing the inner work that will transform your experiences of self-love and self-acceptance.
Let’s transform your relationship with you. Your true love is waiting for you.
I would love to hear your thoughts. Let me know what you think in the comments below. Are you ready to transform your relationship with yourself and find your inner spark?