I used to think I knew what it was like to be busy. And while life was certainly full pre-baby, I at least had more control over how I spent my time.
Pre-baby life was predictable. Even though I had a lot going on I knew exactly when and where I could fit in my self-care practices.
Now things are are a little less (sometimes a lot less) predictable. I don’t have time that I can easily designate as my self-care time. I no longer have hours and hours of alone time and in the moments where I don’t have a baby in my arms there’s always something that needs to get done. (Anyone care to clean my bathrooms for me?)
But self-care is still just as important to me. If not more so.
If I don’t take time to look after myself, even if it’s just a few minutes, I feel chaotic and disconnected. When I add self-care into my days I feel so much better and can do my best to show up as the best version of myself.
As they say, you can’t give from an empty cup so I’m making sure I take the time to keep my cup full.
If, like me, your days are messy, unpredictable and very full you may be wondering how you can possibly fit in any self-care.
I’m here to tell you that you can fit it in. You just need to find things you can do quickly. Things that take only a short amount of time but offer plenty back in return.
Here’s how I’ve been adding self-care into my life over the last few months:
A Quick Beauty Routine
I make sure I shower every morning, clean my teeth and brush my hair. I also massage some jojoba oil into my body, often including a few drops of lavender or frankincense essential oil.
Leaving The House
Too much time inside sends me a little stir-crazy, so I try to leave the house every single day. Some days that means a walk along the beach or through the park, other days it’s simply heading down to the shops.
Going To Bed By 10pm
I don’t have much control over what time I wake up in the morning, or even how many times I will be woken in the night, but I can choose when I go to bed. I function best and feel my best when I go to bed between 9pm and 10pm. So even though it’s all too easy to keep scrolling through Insta or to put on another episode I make sure that I go to bed on time.
I meditate daily, even if only for a few minutes. I also use my breath to calm myself down during any difficult moments throughout the day. Babies can certainly test our patience, and meditation helps me stay patient and understanding.
Eating Well Without Being Too Strict
I make sure that my main meals are full of tasty, nourishing foods. It doesn’t take long to put together a healthy meal so time is not an excuse for not being able to eat well. I don’t believe in denying myself “bad” foods and I eat chocolate nearly everyday. But I know not to eat too much chocolate or drink too much coffee as it effects my sleep and leaves me feeling extra tired the following day.
Understanding & Embracing My Limitations
I’ve learnt that my free time is limited and I make my to-do list accordingly. Each day I aim to accomplish just one or two things. Keeping my to-do list short means I don’t feel overwhelmed by everything that needs to get done. Even though my list is short somedays I don’t get any of it done, and in those instances I don’t beat myself up about it. Cleaning is not my highest priority so it’s not a big deal when the bathroom doesn’t get cleaned.
There’s no need to overcomplicate self-care. If you have lots going on in your life, keep it quick and keep it simple.
If you want more tips on how to prioritise your self-care, no matter how busy you are check out the article I wrote for my friend Amanda and her site Gorgeous Presence.